A reader smells hypocrisy in his co-workers’ proclamations of mourning and wants no part of it. Is he obligated to attend her funeral if his heart isn’t in it?

A 20-something woman who lives with her parents has incurred their disappointment by continuing an affair with her former boss. Since she won’t end things, should they tell the man’s wife?

Tired of being saddled with “dud” husbands when their more exciting wives bow out of plans, a reader wonders if there’s a way to delicately insist that both members of a couple attend.